Helping You Love Yourself into Success with Less Stress! Loving Yourself into Less Stress for Weigh-in Success Part II: Basics of Loving Yourself from the Inside Out by Ilenya Marrin, DSS HOME FREE NEWSLETTER PRODUCTS SERVICES ABOUT ME TESTIMONIALS RESOURCES CONTACT A Few Basic Ideas I'm listing three simple points and tips to get you started with loving yourself at a deeper level than before. Most of these are excerpts from my book, The Power of Personal Peace: Reducing Stress by Loving Yourself from the Inside Out. Read over these points a few times and reflect on how you might put them to work in your life. This part of the article can apply to all areas of your life, not just the challenges of weight reduction. 1. How you choose to respond to stress is an inside job. If you are willing to claim that you are responsible for your responses, you can change how you feel and how you react, from the inside out. By owning that level of choice, you step into a position of power. In truth, the best stress relief comes from making a radical change to realize that you have the power within you to view your world differently, to love yourself and your life, and to choose inner peace, and in so doing you can create major changes in your daily experiences. Shift your perspective to move out of victim consciousness and into your personal power. Tell yourself something like this, "I am taking responsibility for everything that happens to me. I acknowledge that even though I don't understand how, I am responsible, and therefore I have the power to change it. I claim it, I am free to respond differently, and I now choose the most positive, peaceful, harmonious and loving changes available!" Taking radical responsibility for yourself is one of the most powerful and loving inner choices you will ever make! 2. It is essential to learn to love and care for yourself FIRST, so that you can be of help to others. Giving to others if your cup is only half full simply depletes you and increases your stress levels. Here is an affirmation based on loving intention, to help you focus on loving yourself. “I am loving myself, taking care of myself, and living in personal peace.” You might try repeating this or something similar 100 times a day for the next month. (It'll take less than ten minutes). Or you could say it a few times with feeling as you begin and end your day. You could make up a simple tune and sing it while you drive. You could write it daily at the top of each new journal page. You could meditate on it while waiting for your coffee to cool. If these words don't resonate for you, make up a variation of your own and use it faithfully to get this intention established. Put a note on your bathroom mirror or your bedside table to remind you to stick with your repetitions. 3. Whatever challenges and stressors you face, lovingly ask yourself the right questions to draw powerful answers from your conscious and unconscious mind and inner wisdom. You may ask yourself the same question or set of questions daily for a few weeks and make brief notes on any answers that come to mind. Ask with an open mind and heart, curiously exploring. You might think of yourself as a scientific explorer looking for new discoveries. You'll be surprised at how dynamic this process can become. In this loving exploration, avoid "Why?" questions which tend to invite rationalizing and intellectual answers. Instead, ask "What?" and "How?" questions along these lines: What do I need to learn from this situation? What is this situation trying to teach me? How is this stressful situation disturbing my peace? How am I creating, promoting or allowing this situation? How am I allowing it to disturb my peace? What is it about this situation specifically that is so stressful, frustrating or worrisome? How can I view this differently? What can I do differently in this situation? How can I see this from a place of peace? What additional information do I need about this? How can I balance this situation within myself? How can I be more loving with myself in this situation? What is the most loving choice I can make now? These mental adjustments create new pathways in your consciousness to help you deepen your self-loving and make wiser choices to reduce stress in ways most suited to your unique needs. Remember, this is not about reading and saying, "Sounds good," or "Sure looks simple," and then being too busy to do the suggestions! These ideas work when you work them! If you want some different results, do something different. Reflect on these strategies, make new choices in your mental approach to life, and watch your self-loving blossom while your stress and bulges melt away. Click on the links below for the rest of the articles in this series. Part I: Overview Part II: Basics of Loving Yourself from the Inside Out Part III: How to Love Yourself and Your Weight Loss Process Part IV: How to Love Yourself Forward with Small Steps Back to List of Articles

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